Furry Relationship styles?

[AlanTabby]

Well, I was wondering what kind of relationships (dating) we furries have & what kinds most often.  Like if we stick to more mainstream types or go more non-traditonal or if we even use the style of our animal self.   No one has to answer everything. I’m just curious to see if how we think & if anyone is similar to me.     This is for fun & exploration!!!

1st off- What gender are ya? Male, Female, Trans etc?
2nd- What sexuality? Hetero, homo, pan, asexual (wait..)?

Now what kind of beliefs do ya have?  Like do ya believe that there should only be one mate or is having 2+  alright (Polygynandry*edit*)?   Is everyone included considered a “mate” or are some just pack/pride members with benefits or do you maybe have a master/pet?   Also, when I say master/pet, does anyone view that as non-sexual & instead an actual relationship like what you would have with a housepet?  What is needed to be a “mate” vs. something else?  Does your animal self affect how you view your mate or any other relationship types?  Does it effect it in a good or bad way for you?

How many plan to get married/common-law or nothing? Have pups? Live all together in a pack setting? Live alone or with 1 mate?

Hopefully, I didn’t offend anyone …and I will say for myself, I definitely fit the non-traditional options.  (will post soon)

Anyone have something to add?

[PyroVulpes]

Hopefully, I didn’t offend anyone …

Heck, not even I can see how this would offend anyone. Everyone's views on relationships are entirely their own. What's right for some might not be right for others, but it's nothing anyone should get offended over.


As for myself, I'm male, heterosexual with a tendency toward being asexual, and don't believe that a relationship has to follow any particular formula. Though if I ever do somehow end up in a relationship, it'll likely be a traditional one with a single mate who I'm completely dedicated to.

[Tiger_Dusk]

Im pansexual, I have a mate, and my main veiws are loyalty, and actually careing about eachother. I won't go after someone else and I trust my mate. I dunno what to call this kinda relationship : p, but I think all relationships have one thing in common... or umm are supposed to have something in common, people should care about eachother if they are in a relationship, at least I think that's the most important thing anyways. lol Sry for getting way off topic! anyways ya i couldn't be happier in the relationship im in XD dunno what kind it is but it's one heck of a ride!

[Fenris]

I'm a female straight. In a relationship... singular, for both of us. I want to get married one day and have more pups (I have one already) but that's a long way off.

My beliefs are as long as you're happy.

Why would you have offended anyone? You're asking legit questions out of curiosity.

[Buun]

1rst off- I dont want to think about my gender.
2end off- pan

Hmm, thats all I am comfortable with posting, for now... n.n

[Not that I am offended, I am just shy.]

[Aurifer]

RELATIONSHIP STYLE 5+!!

By which I mean I'm male, gay, and polyamorous. I suppose I don't really have all that much to add to that.

My greatest (and of course unattainable) dream would be to find a whole bunch of absolutely perfect men, and we'll build a paradise together, or some other corny nonsense. Then we'd play volleyball on a beach and eat ice-cream while watching the sunset, just because those are the only things to DO in paradise.

[Drabit]

Male, hetero

Personal is 1 on 1 couple, while I don't object to anyone else's beliefs I prefer 1 on 1.

I don't know, still looking

[Drewdle]

Male, into the lady furs. Definitely not polyamorous, I have enough issues trusting one person. Most importantly, however, whatever floats the rest of your boats would never offend me. Very open minded here.  And definitely not offended.

[Aaeden]

Genetically male, bigendered, bisexual, polyamorous.

For the record, polygamy is men having more than one wife, not partner, and polyandry is women having more than one husband, not partner. You didn't offend me at all, just pointing that out.

I'm very happy with the style of relationship I have, and while I'm only in a 'relationship' with two people, I have other friends / partners / etcetera of different types.

[Benjamin]

Actually, the proper term is "polygyny" for a man having more than one wife.
And "polygynandry" is the term used for marriages of more than one man to more than one woman. Just thought I'd state that for the record.
 
Me?
I'm straight and polyamorous, but I've got myself dedicated to my mate for security and stability reasons.
 
Benjamin

[Aaeden]

You know what, he's totally right. >.>

I forgot that polygamy is a general term, so I didn't look that one up. Polygyny is indeed the proper term for a man having more than one wife.

I've actually never heard of the term polygynandry myself, but it makes sense. Basically if you have 2 guys and 3 girls in an exclusive relationship, it's polygynandry, as is 4 girls and two guys, or any combination that is more than 4 people (seeing as 3 people, by definition, is 1 gender with 2 partners of the opposite gender, or 3 partners of the same gender... you need 2 of each gender).

Which makes me wonder... what's the term for homosexual relationships that have multiple wives / husbands? O_o

[AlanTabby]

*blinks* wow, I'm so lost with all those P words, ya guys really know your stuff...if I can figure out how to edit the word polygamy out of my post , I will, kk?

Btw, thanks for everyone's answers so far!!

[Benjamin]

"Polygynandry" is a term I had learned about in university, in a third year sociology class. We were reading a case study regarding the polygynandrous marriages that (used to?) occur in Tibet. In Tibet, with it being such a difficult country to have functional, arable property, such marriages became common for financial reasons. In the Western World, such things would happen due to love dynamics more than anything, I'm sure.
 

*blinks* wow, I'm so lost with all those P words, ya guys really know your stuff...if I can figure out how to edit the word polygamy out of my post , I will, kk?

I don't think you have anything to worry about in using that term. It's perfectly acceptable English... even if it's not a legal practice when it comes to marrital systems in this world.
 
Benjamin

[Aaeden]

Right! I think I remember reading something about the Tibetans at one point...

Dammit, I wish I'd taken a sociology course in school, or a psych course for that matter.

I'm considering going back part time at some point to do the courses I never had a chance to.

I mean seriously, the one course I had an option of taking that wasn't tech-oriented was a general arts course, and I was the only one in my program, I'm pretty sure, who took the sexuality course. :3

[RappyRaptor]

I'm a dude, I'm single.  I like it that way.  I can get my nookie when ever I can, and I don't have to worry about cheating on anyone.

[Slim Shadow]

I'm a straight male, and I am furry, with a furry Girlfriend, and it's a long distance relationship. She is saving up for a trip to come over to Alberta to see me.

Being a member of the Mormon Church, I made covenants with myself and God to abide myself from sexual transgression (So therefore, no yiff until marriage.) I truly love her and I cannot wait to see her in real life. I believe she has mutual feelings back to me. Are our furry-jones hindering us from becoming a good Godly relationship? Not so. I believe that being Furry is not a sin, but a weakness that makes us stronger spiritually. So if we control our furry, we get stronger and stronger. Once we get married and sealed, we can express ourselves sexually and freely under the smiling eyes of God while building a nice family.

And about Mormons and polygamy, It was practiced in the early days of the church as was practiced in the days of Mankind (Abraham and Issac practiced). It was practiced because of a low population of Church members so therefore less equal population between men and women. People didn't see the lust in it, but as the Church grew, the population kept getting bigger, then men and women were becoming more equal population-wise, so therefore, polygamy was not needed anymore. Today, if anyone in the Church is found practicing an act of polygamy, they are revoked from the Church.

[Aaeden]

I'd like to be the first to reply to this post, as there are a number of things I feel may invoke possible misdirection in the intent of this thread.

First off, I'd like to thank Slim for sharing his personal beliefs and covenants with us, as this is a valuable thing that makes us all who we are. I think it's awesome that he is saving himself for his significant other, and think that there is nothing more pure than keeping oneself chaste. This kind of practice is obviously not for all of us, but the amount of personal strength it takes to hold to this decision is admirable at the very least. You have some amazing dreams of raising a family and enjoying each other under the rules of your religion and belief system, which I think is something that many of us can say about our own beliefs!

One thing that I disagree with, although not specifically to say "you are wrong" is Slim's appraisal of furry being a 'weakness'. I don't believe he is out to say we are weak because we are furry, but moreso that furry is something that he feels must be controlled within himself, and channeled so that he can live his life to his utmost satisfaction, if my analysis is accurate.

Secondly, I would like to say that his opinion of polygamy is very well versed with respect to biblical teachings, and I most definitely respect that. I'd like to say that polygamy in my own personal opinion is not necessarily a 'good thing', but in and of itself, it's not a 'bad thing' either. I personally feel that everyone has the right to their own way of life, knowing all the facts, and that nobody need be forced to live in a way that is not 'right' or 'correct' for them. I'm not getting the sense that you are saying that any of us are outright wrong, but instead, are indicating the way your religious society treats the topics of discussion.

Remember, everyone, we're all unique and special in our own ways, and I think Slim is just as amazing for having the courage to share his viewpoints in this, such a controversial forum!

[Rainbow Wally]

Well lets see I'm a Gay male, and i believe in one on one relationships. Nothing against having more than one Mate, but i just don't see a need for it...  but as the old saying goes "to each his/her own"

[Zera Stargazer]

Female, straight and I believe in the 1 on 1 thing too.
Like Slim I also have a furry other half that is far away.  Though I have met him IRL it does make it difficult when we're 3,500 km apart.  I do believe all this time apart will make our eventual time together all the more special.

[Aurifer]

Which makes me wonder... what's the term for homosexual relationships that have multiple wives / husbands? O_o

I'd think the wordforms are based purely on gender, so it would still be polygynandry. Although I'd question slightly the reason homosexuals would get spouses of the opposite gender. I suppose there's the whole legal thing, if good (completely non-sexual) friends want to make a home together.

You know what would be fun? Getting married to your best friend, just for the heck of it.