Mates/Dating-ish types

[AlanTabby]

So, I'm curious what groups furries tend to date in & how. Do they tend to date mostly other furries or non-furries, do non-furries that are par of another fandom like Star Trek date more furries them plain non-furries? When furries date furries do they date their own *species* or their own food type (pred vs. prey)? Does species matter at all!? Does age make a difference? Do they get married more often? Online relationships more? How far is too far? Children?

Just random curiousity as I hear many furs saw they would only ever date other furries due to it being *easier*



**used term mate as it is non-gender & non-committment specific

[Pixel]

I've got a girlfriend who's wicked into anime and gaming. 's pretty sweet.

[Wyrd-Hotd]

Ah. in this department, i am lacking XD Never have had luck with the ladies XD

[Drewdle]

I suppose I'm definitely an odd one in this crowd; I'm happily mated, hopefully for life, barring extraneous circumstances or a deus ex machina. My wife is a fur too, though we don't share species. Being furs was not a factor in our getting married or hooking up, in fact, when we first met we hadn't discovered the fandom yet.

[bloodredruby]

Well, Alan, I think that would depend mostly on the density of furs in the area. If a person is exposed to a metropolis of people interested in the same things they are (ie, a lot of furries in the area, or a ton of trekkies, etc) you would see a higher occurance of furs hooking up with other furs, trekkies with trekkies, etc. But, where there are only limited populations of furs, and a fur is exposed to mainly plain people, the rate of furs dating plain people would be majority.

I'm sure that there are some furs who are particularly specific about species, age, and all that jazz, but personally, if I find someone I find interesting and appealing, I'm not going to let things like that or whether they are a fur or not change my mind about approaching them. If they weren't furry, it might restrict me from telling them for a while though; the whole trust and learning about one another crap. ^^ 

[Wotan]

Haven't had a mate since 2000.  The last one burned me badly enough that it was several years before I could even *think* about trying to get another one.
  Now, unfortunately, I've become too old, unattractive, and broke to appeal to most possibilities out there, especially those in the fandom.

[RappyRaptor]

The BF aint really a fur, but everyone joking refers to him as a llamaslug and he simply adopted the name.

[Seamus]

Getting engaged to a Ferret/Cheetah in September :3  Being furry or not was definitely not a factor in our relationship, it's more like an added bonus.

[Wotan]

Also another thing I like to expand on is how some furs are so bloody picky. Like how shallow do you have to be to turn a blind eye to someone that has a great personality or you get along well. But they don't meet your criteria of. Being a fur, speices you are looking for, etc.

  Of course, a lot of that tends to go hand-in-hand with the ongoing game of 'musical beds' that is endemic in the fanDUMB.  There's also the other factor that Ben and I have joked about in that most furry 'mateships' seem to have an awful short shelf-life, and tend to last just about as long as it takes for the afterglow to fade from the consummation, or until one of the parties involved finds something shinier.  And then there are the so-called "polyamorous" furs, (of which very few are actually, bona fide polyamorous.  Rather, they just want a convenient excuse to have their proverbial cake and eat it too.)

Not saying this applies to you guys but it applies to a fair bit of furs out there.

Good use of the principle of charity.  I might not have been so kind.  There are more than a few, who fit that particular mould perfectly.  There are also a few, who are looking for sugar daddies rather than mates.

 

They need to stop being so ignorant and stop complaining how they are single and no one loves them. When they could open up and find someone they actually love being around even if they aren't part of the fandom.

  But... But... But... I only want to date a morphadite pikachu with twenty-seven breasts!

Like god damn I am dating a friggin fur basher and he is the best BF I have ever had <333 Funny how the first guy I dated outside of the fandom is the first one I have been able to connect with the easiest so far :3

  Surprising how that works sometimes, isn't it?  The last one that was interested in me wanted a convenience marriage so she could get citizenship.   

Also Wotan if you were a faggot I would totally consider checking you out if I was single. If your RL personality is anything like it is on this forum. I would have a blast with you xP

  Thanks for the compliment.  Unfortunately, I don't dip over onto the male side all that much—just not the way I'm wired, but I'm sure if I ever made it out your way, we could at least have a few beers.  Besides, I'm WAY too old for you. Even following the 'half your age plus seven' rule, I'm too old.

[Sedyah]

I married my furry counterpart.. It wasn't a must in the relationship, but definitely a bonus

~Sedyah~

[AlanTabby]

Mhmm, I'll agree with everything said so far.

Agree with Ruby, that the more furs in the area, the more they tend to date, though with the internet, furs will cling(in good & bad ways) to their online mates without dating nearby, anyone agree? How many have committed relationships over the internet?

For those who did find another furry, how many consider themselves "furry lifestylers"?  Does being a "lifestyler" make it more important to have a furry or even a furry of same species?
* Find being more of a lifestyler myself, needing another furry or at least someone who understands it i.e.kink petplay-er, helps out alot.

@Wotan, I hope I never met the furs you have! Makes one realize why non-furs think such scary things bout us if we act so horrible even to each to other.  Oh, and luckily,  I find most furs don't care about age, so hope you jump back in the dating pool,bringing a better rep to dating furs!


*is very hyper today....*

[Shnell]

My boyfriends a non-fur and everything hahah... he doesn't belong to any fandoms either P:

[Pilot]

I'm happily mated to a fox. I was still new to the fandom when I met him, and sort of knew he was a furry.. but it didn't play a big role. Though it was definitely his fault I got deeper into the fandom. XD
As for the being shallow part, when it comes to guys I'm very guilty of this. Though it hasn't necessarily had too bad of an outcome.
My mate is guilty of this as well, and I'm more the happy with him.
We're both insane, so it just works so much better.

Fox and Ferret.  As much as he keeps yipping at me that 'Your totally part fox. >.>'  Both 'predator' for the most part. Sort of..
I've never dated over the internet, and never plan on it, I've only seen one successful internet relationship work.. and she ended up pregnant and has a kid now. ._.;

Also the fact that.. All of the ferret furs I know, (6 of them) One lives in Canada, In Toronto somewheres, And the rest are surprisingly all in Texas. o_O; and their all males. I'm so alone.. Except for Ermine. She's awesome and in Victoria.

[slickdelray]

Currently single. Don't really care whether my mate is in the fandom or not (like others have said: it would be an added bonus). However, she'll have to put up with my obsession with Edsels. That is a requirement.

I want to find a girl who likes me (or who'll put up with me) for who I really am. A crazy Edsel-loving, aircraft-flying, bagpipe-playing, 1950's music junkie greaser skunk from Russia. Wow, I make it sound worse that it really is.

[turbocarl]

I'm not mated, been mated with a girl for more than a year and she was nothing like me, she wasn't in any fandom, she wasn't as open as I am so I have to admit that being bi and furry didn't helped especially when she asked "why in hell do you need to go to those weirdos conventions???"... needless to say I wasn't as happy as I am today, I don't ask much about my next relation, thought for now I'm happy as a single, but if I get another relation I want my lover to be open about my furryness and my bi-sexuality, and indeed that we fit together xD I don't want to have to explain why I want to go to a furry convention once in a while and having someone making me feel bad about going there(cuz she DID made me feel bad on purpose for this...)

[Drewdle]

I'm not mated, been mated with a girl for more than a year and she was nothing like me, she wasn't in any fandom, she wasn't as open as I am so I have to admit that being bi and furry didn't helped especially when she asked "why in hell do you need to go to those weirdos conventions???"... needless to say I wasn't as happy as I am today, I don't ask much about my next relation, thought for now I'm happy as a single, but if I get another relation I want my lover to be open about my furryness and my bi-sexuality, and indeed that we fit together xD I don't want to have to explain why I want to go to a furry convention once in a while and having someone making me feel bad about going there(cuz she DID made me feel bad on purpose for this...)

Emotionally abusive relationships for the not-win. A previous mate of mine (the one before my wife, actually) was very similar to this, and not having had much relationship experience I thought this was perfectly normal if a little hurtful. The things we learn as we age.

[turbocarl]

believe me I won't let this happen again, I'm still friend with her but I will never come back with her or mate with anyone that would try to stop me from being what I really am

[AirGuiTaR]

I was just discussing this topic the other day!

Ive been with my man for almost 9 years now (finally engaged too!) and he has absolutely ZERO interest in the furry fandom. He sometimes gets involved in what I draw, but other than that, nothing. I think I'd much prefer having a S.O. who isnt involved. It would be "furry overload" for me and right now Ive struck a perfect balance. Furry can be my thing. XD

[Shnell]

I was just discussing this topic the other day!

Ive been with my man for almost 9 years now (finally engaged too!) and he has absolutely ZERO interest in the furry fandom. He sometimes gets involved in what I draw, but other than that, nothing. I think I'd much prefer having a S.O. who isnt involved. It would be "furry overload" for me and right now Ive struck a perfect balance. Furry can be my thing. XD

Haha, my boyfriend is exactly the same and I couldn't agree with you more. P:

[Kenda]

My girl is not a furry at all, and has just seen a few of my drawings. Opposites attract!